One of the most difficult conversations you will ever have with your child will be on the topic of “divorce or separation. Most parents try to avoid discussing divorce and separation altogether or simply pretend that there is no elephant in the room. Even though children may not understand the circumstances or what happened, it is completely safe and necessary to have this conversation, but it must be done is with gentleness and wisdom.
Discussing Divorce -You and Your Partner:
When possible, you and your partner should be on the same page before approaching your child. It’s critical that both of you recognize the child’s needs are “priority”. Whether the separation was a mutual decision or one-sided, recognize it has serious implications for the child psychologically and emotionally.
When discussing divorce or separation, be proactive and be ready to answer these common questions children usually have when impacted by a parental separation or divorce;

You, your partner and your child:
Let them know that the conversation about the separation is an open topic and do not slander or blame the other partner in front of the child.
Be open and be honest, take care of yourself.
Seek support if necessary! It is completely normal to feel devastated or torn up about the separation. Speaking to somebody or professional can help.
At Positive Kids, we offer programs and counselling to children who are having a difficult time accepting a separation/divorce or who are currently in the middle of dealing with a separation/divorce. If your child is c experiencing the emotional pitfall of a divorce or separation, give them the tools they need to navigate through their emotional struggles.
Please do not hesitate to contact Positive Kids for any additional information on our services!