Calm Parenting in Child Anger Management
Have you ever felt angry? What did you feel when someone told you to stop being angry, or to control your emotions? You probably felt bad. No one likes it when other try to “manage” their moods or emotions. Kids are the same, too. This means that in child anger management, forcefully trying to control your child’s varying moods or asking him to stop his aggression would never work. In children, the first and natural reaction when told to do something they don’t want to do is resistance.
So how can you manage your child’s aggression effectively without exacerbating things and making him resist everything you want him to do? Here are some tips that might help.
Controlling Others’ Behaviors Does Not Work in Child Anger Management
So stop trying. Instead, embrace this chance to let it go. Let your child feel whatever he is feeling. If he is anger, give him space and time to be frustrated or disappointed. This will teach him how to cope with his own emotions in his own way. This is a crucial trait that he can use later on in life.
Child Anger Management Rests on Objectivity
This may be tougher than it sounds, but try and treat your child objectively. This should help you see things clearly. Attempt to be “emotionally separate” from him, enough to let you see him in a new light. This way, you’ll see his behaviors without taking anything too personally. This’ll also prevent you from blaming yourself everytime things get tough. Try and comprehend what he may be going through by putting yourself in his shoes. Even if they make you feel uncomfortable, let him go through his emotions on his own.
Do Not Treat Your Child as if You are One and the Same
Your child is a separate, individual person. Accept this and the fact that he will be able to develop emotions that aren’t the same as yours. Being comfortable with this idea will let you find a better reaction to his outbursts. Find a response that can be most beneficial to him. Remember that you can never manage your child’s behaviors unless you are able to manage your own.
Reaching Out for Child Anger Management Therapy
Even with these stellar pieces of advice, things can get too difficult for parents to handle. That’s why we are here – for you and your child. Positive Kids is made up of a team of professional and licensed therapists who can assess your struggles and identify the root of your problems. This will let us guide you in finding solutions to your issues. Contact us for more information and learn more about our effective child anger management strategies.
Further Reading on Child Anger Management through Calm Parenting
Debbie Pincus, MS LMHC offers compassionate and effective therapy and coaching, helping individuals, couples and parents to heal themselves and their relationships. Read more about her take on calm parenting and its efficacy on managing child anger issues.