How to Tell the Difference Between Typical Behaviour and ADHD in Boys
Parenting is full of ups and downs. It can be tricky to figure out if your son’s behaviour is just typical kid stuff or something more.
Are you noticing certain patterns, like constant fidgeting, trouble focusing, or impulsive actions? And now you wonder about Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder, commonly known as ADHD.
But before you get ahead of yourself, we’re here for you. Knowing the signs of ADHD symptoms in boys is the first step in helping your son thrive.
As child therapists specializing in ADHD, we at Positive Kids understand your concerns and are here to help!
Is it Typical Behaviour or ADHD in Boys?
It’s normal for kids to be energetic, have short attention spans, and act impulsively sometimes. So, how can you tell if your son has ADHD or not?
The most important aspects to look at are the frequency, intensity, and impact of the behaviours.
- Is it constant? Does your son always fidget, even when he’s trying to focus? Does he constantly interrupt, even after being reminded? Occasional bursts of energy are normal; constant restlessness is not.
- Is it intense? Does your son’s activity level seem much higher than other kids his age? Does he have big emotional reactions that seem disproportionate to the situation?
- Is it causing problems? Is his behaviour making it hard for him to succeed at school? Is it affecting his friendships? Is it causing stress at home?
If you’ve answered “yes” to any of these, it’s worth looking into further.
Recognizing Early ADHD Symptoms in Boys
ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition. This means it impacts how the brain grows and develops.1 While kids with ADHD show different signs, there are some common things to watch for, specifically in boys.
The Common Signs of ADHD in Boys
The main types of ADHD symptoms in kids are hyperactive/impulsive, inattentive/distractible, and combined.1
Hyperactive/Impulsive Symptoms
This is the most common type of ADHD we see in boys. Its outward signs make it much easier to notice.2
Boys with ADHD have trouble staying seated; they fidget or squirm a lot and run or climb at inappropriate times. Kids with ADHD may find it difficult to play quietly or talk excessively.
Impulsivity can show up as trouble waiting their turn, acting without thinking, interrupting others, and sometimes having little sense of danger.3
Inattentive/Distractible Symptoms
Although boys can present with some of these symptoms, girls are more likely to have inattentive/distractible ADHD. Unfortunately, this inward type of ADHD can be missed easily.2
You might notice your child has trouble paying attention to details, makes careless mistakes in homework, or struggles to stay focused on tasks or play.
It almost seems as if they aren’t listening when you talk to them, and they struggle to follow instructions and finish chores or schoolwork.
Boys with ADHD also avoid tasks that require them to sit still and concentrate. They’re easily distracted by things around them, forget daily tasks, and can make a hurricane look organized.
Not to mention, they lose things all the time – from school supplies to shoes.
Combined Symptoms
Many boys with ADHD show a mix of both inattentive/distractible and hyperactive/impulsive symptoms. This is known as the combined presentation.
If your son often struggles to focus, has a lot of energy, and acts impulsively, he might have this type of ADHD.
Beyond What You See: The “ADHD Iceberg”
While hyperactivity is often the first thing people think of with ADHD, there’s more to it. Some of the biggest challenges for boys with ADHD are the behaviours you don’t see.
Think of it like an iceberg – you only see the tip. Underneath, there are many other difficulties at play.4
Image source: PsychCentral
These can include:
- Emotional dysregulation. Big feelings, mood swings, and getting frustrated easily.
- Time blindness. Having a hard time understanding, judging, and managing time.
- Trouble with planning and problem-solving. Known as executive function challenges.
- Rejection sensitive dysphoria. Experiencing a lot of hurt related to criticism and racing thoughts.
These internal struggles are very real and can significantly affect how boys with ADHD feel about themselves.
ADHD and Age
There is no specific age at which parents notice signs of ADHD in their boys; it’s a different journey for everyone.
Hyperactive/impulsive symptoms are often noticed earlier, sometimes around ages 4 or 5. Inattentive symptoms might become more apparent when your child starts school and faces more academic demands, often around 8 or 9 years.
Some people only get diagnosed as teens or adults.
If you have concerns at any age, pay attention to how consistent these behaviours are. Or ask for help!
Book a session today; we’re here for you and your kids.
How ADHD symptoms present in boys is also not static. It can change as he grows.1
For instance:
- During preschool, you’ll probably see lots of running and climbing, even when it’s inappropriate. He might talk non-stop and have trouble playing quietly.
- While at school, difficulties become more pronounced. This might include trouble staying seated, finishing assignments, or getting along with classmates.
- In the teenage years, the constant running around might lessen, but you might see more internal restlessness, like fidgeting or feeling “on edge.” Staying focused and organized can still be a big challenge.
When to Seek Help
If you notice persistent ADHD symptoms in your child that are impacting his ability to learn, make friends, or manage his emotions, find professional guidance.
If he’s struggling with schoolwork, having trouble with peers, seems very frustrated, or has low self-esteem, these can also be reasons to get help.
Most importantly, trust your instincts!
If you are worried,speaking with a healthcare professional is one of the best steps you can take. They’ll be able to help you figure out if an ADHD assessment is needed and put you at ease.
Supporting Their Growth
Getting a diagnosis is the first step to getting the right support. This support can make a huge difference in your son’s life, helping him manage his symptoms and build his strengths.
At Positive Kids, we know that every child is unique.
We specialize in helping children with ADHD develop the social, emotional, and cognitive skills they need to flourish.
Our approach is holistic, which means we look at the whole child and all aspects of their life. So, we don’t just focus on helping your son; we also help you, as the parent, to better understand him and his needs.
If you’re seeing signs of ADHD symptoms in your child, book a session today.
Let’s work together to help your son shine!
Sources:
- https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-what-you-need-to-know
- https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-symptoms-in-girls-and-boys
- https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/symptoms/
- https://psychcentral.com/adhd/the-adhd-iceberg
Disclaimer: Positive Kids is here to support your family’s journey with tools and strategies that nurture growth. The information in this blog is meant to inspire and guide; it is not a substitute for professional advice tailored to your child’s unique needs. If you have questions about what’s best for your little one, we’d love to connect. Reach out to our team today!